Monday, March 31, 2008

Do you overthink your confidence?

Look what I found on one of my favorite horse blogs: . Horses are my personal therapy and help to keep me confident. After all if you are not confident on the back of a horse, they can smell fear and will likely run you under a tree!

"Heard this joke today: Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson are going camping. They pitch their tent under the stars and go to sleep. Sometime in the middle of the night, Holmes wakes Watson up: "Watson, look up at the stars, and tell me what you see." Watson says, "I see millions of stars and even if a few of those have planets, it's quite likely there are some planets like Earth, and if there are a few planets like Earth out there, there might also be life." Holmes replied: "Watson, you idiot, somebody stole our tent." I like this joke because it pokes fun at how we can overthink things instead of stating the obvious and dealing with the "now".

How many times do we over think whether an event is for us, a piece of advice is just right, where we are in life, how we can fix our confidence and self esteem or what is wrong with our relationships? Not all in life is complicated, but a lack of confidence in your ability to make a decision will sure slow down how quickly the great things in life arrive at your door!

Monday, March 24, 2008

Real Simple Magazine - Solutions don't work unless you are going to bake your banker a cake!

Today I read Real Simple magazine and came across an article on Your Biggest Money Worries (,21861,1697911-1710778,00.html). It caught my attention because you can't walk out of your house these days without thinking about money and we will be teaching women how to have greater financial confidence on May 2. HOWEVER, the solutions mentioned for resolving your money issues in this popular magazine FLOORED me. They included things like:
- are you spending too much. spend less. (You think?)
- remove all but one credit card from your wallet. (okay, I'll give 'em that one)
- go get happy about something (Are you kidding?)
- make sure everything you buy is returnable. (okay, that does it!)

Not only are women looking for real financial solutions, they face a REAL problem and the solutions in Real Simple magazine are almost laughable. Sure, you can cut down on the Starbuck's and return that impulse buy, but here are some REAL facts that you also need to know to increase your financial confidence.
  • 76% of women are eventually widowed
  • 80% of these women were not poor when their husbands were alive.
  • 70% of the USs elderly poor people are women
  • The savings rate of a single woman is 1.5% vs 2.1% for single men
  • In the first year after a divorce a woman's standard of living drops an average of 73%.
Now, you could say that these are due to salary differences or time away from work, but the real issue seems to be that women don't know as much about money and making it work for them in general, as their male counterparts do. Women are usually not taught money issues as children. They are instead taught how to keep a clean home, cook a good meal and take care of a family. Right or wrong, those skills do not impress a banker, unless you are going to bake him or her a cake. If you don't know your own credit score, your own bank balance, and for that matter, if you don't HAVE your own credit and own bank account, that will eat away at your CONFIDENCE in a serious way. Learn that stuf today. Your future, your retirement and your very survival through tough times such as these depends on it.

Sunday, March 23, 2008

Top Ten Ways to Boost Your Confidence

The Top Ways to Boost Your Confidence

1. Spend time with optimistic, upbeat people
2. Go to Contagious Confidence events (filled with upbeat people looking for you) (
3. Attempt to take less things personally (great link:
4. Be Fascinated with things, instead of Frustrated
5. Spend less time with the eyeores of your office or life
6. Learn the difference between confidence and self esteem
7. Ask others for help when you are unable to solve a problem yourself
8. Gain a greater sense of self awareness of what is really important to you
9. Take control over your own finances, health and fitness, and voices in your head
10. Realize that no matter what you are facing and the problems you may have, they are not representative of WHO you are, but rather just WHERE you are at the moment.

BONUS: Try not to engage your emotions into a problem too quickly. Once they are engaged, the situation becoms emotional and you lose all ability to be logical, rational, or objective. (For example: a piece of bad news that you take personally and begin to FEEL as if it were a personal attack leads to an inability to think about the bearer of bad news, the origin of the news, and the real impact of the news on you.)

Stay Contagoiusly Confident!

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Keep your chin up...

There is a lot of talk about the economy, the real estate market, the money situation, the media, the news, the doom and gloom mentality... it can be real tough to wake up in the morning and think we are okay.

Keep in mind as you walk through your day -
- you don't have to get sucked in to all the negativity
- things may be tight and tough, but you will perservere and make it through this
- your finances are not about WHO you are, but merely a representation of WHERE you are.

Money gives you options. Money can give you power (in some cases). Money scares the heck out of people and many women, in particular, do not know how to talk about it or what to do with it, yet we are the ones who control most it, according to all the stats that you see.

If money scares you or intimidates you or you simply wish to learn more about it and how to make more of it, as well as what to do with it, when you have it... click here to register for our upcoming Contagious Confidence Conference for Women - Financial Focus.

If you are unable to open that link, go to and click on Conferences, then on Financial Focus. There you will see the power of this event and its information. You will find that this might be the best investment in your own financial future!

Keep your chin up and get all the information you can. What your attitude is about what is going on is completely up to you!


Thursday, March 13, 2008

And now... for the rest of the story....

Here is the rest of the list of how businesswomen differ from businessmen. This list came from SirSpeedy Printing Center originally, but was shared iwth me by a participant at our most recent Contagious Conference. For the other items, see the post from 3/12. Enjoy!

He makes wise judgments; she reveals her prejudices.

He's a man of the world; she's "been around".

He isn't afraid to say what he thinks; she's opinionated.

He exercises authority; she's tyrannical.

He's discreet; she's secretive.

He's a stern taskmaster; she's difficult to work for.

So unfortunately true for much of our workplaces, but there are those out there who see the difference and embrace it. Do you? Stay Contagious!

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

How Business Women are Different from Business Men

As I just got a glimpse in the mirror of my super big hair today, I had to chuckle as no one will likely mistake what state I originally came from - Texas! That also made me think of the times when people have told me that Texan women have a way of communicating, a sense of bold confidence if you will, and that led me to think on the fact that WOMEN period have a way of communicating that is often different from men.

In fact, Sylvia from McCoy Federal Credit Union, a participant in our last conference, was gracious enough to share something with me that she had been given years ago. It is a listing of the ways that businesswomen differ from businessmen and it is worth a read. Here are some examples:

A businessman is aggressive, a business woman is pushy.

He is careful about details; she's picky.

He loses his temper because he's so involved in his job; she's __ itchy.

He's depressed (or hung over), so everyone tiptoes past his office; she's moody, so it must be her "time of the month".

He follows through; she doesn't know when to quit.

He's firm; she's stubborn...

I'll share more soon, but keep in mind how you may be perceived simply becuase of these differences. Are these true for your office?

Sunday, March 09, 2008

Confidence and Glamour - not the same thing

For most of us, our confidence is associated with what we look like.
Well, just in case you are wondering, that is bologna and Romeo
(the horse in this picture) doesn't care what I look like. He just
cares whether or not I hang on and whether I bring him carrots!

The same is true with most of the people you hang out with. Most are not concerned with what you look like and for that matter most don't know what you believe YOU are SUPPOSED to look like. Confidence and glamour are not the same thing. Confidence is internal and glamour is external - usually only until you hit some humidity! (sorry, it's a Florida thing - bad hair days come often with the humidity we face.)

Be careful of the inconsistency in associating what you look like (Glamour) with what you feel like and believe about yourself (Confidence). You have control over both, but keep in mind which one is more important. We all can maintain our confidence even on those days of poor humidity, no makeup and hair on top of our head. Ha!

Saturday, March 08, 2008

An Amazing Conference!

If you were there... you remember the potato bar....
If you were there... you remember Wendy Chant's great information!
If you were there.... you remember putting together another puzzle...
If you were there... you remember Monica helping you to "get out of your head" and talking about Our Pink World.

If you were not at the Contagious Confidence Conference for women on February 29, 2008, you missed a great conference focused on Health and Fitness and you liking you no matter what you look like.

A participant recently told me that she now sees "what she looks like as separate from who SHE IS" WOW!!! Just because you don't have a magazine cover body, doesn't mean you aren't a great person or have stellar qualities. That is what Contagious Confidence will do for you!

What was the point you walked away with? What do you remember? Stay tuned for more contagious confidence happenings and sightings.... :) And remember... you're cool, you ROCK, and you are you!

Stay Contagious!