Women Who Do Too Much

Good morning!
Today I had the opportuntity to read a calendar that my dear girlfriend gave me last Christmas. It is a daily calendar for "Women Who Do Too Much" and today's note made me giggle as it stood out and set me straight for a wonderful day.

The calendar stated:
"Just for today, I will try to live through this day only and not tackle my whole life
problems at once."

Have you ever tried to tackle your whole life in one sitting or in one day or with one list? he-he. Maybe that's just me. If not, let's work on that together - today is just today and let's live for today and be confident about our ability to handle anything that comes our way today. In fact, let's be contagiously confident that we can handle anything that comes our way today.

Stay Contagious!

Confidence can be robbed from the best of us...

Yep, you guessed it. Even the "Contagious Lady" has rough days. Who knew?

You know, the more blogs I read, the more I learn about people and the personal stuff they share. Hmmm....for some I might say "that's a slight over share" and others I find it interesting getting to know them. And then again it occurred to me that my blog is a bit less personal than maybe it could be. Thus, I thought I would share...

I don't know about you, but this week has been a doozy. There have been personal issues, engagements that did not go through, issues with people I like and those I wish I had reconsidered liking (hee-hee) and more. Yet every day with most people, I have found myself putting on the ever popular game face. The truth is that this week has probably been one of the worst. I have doubted my self, doubted my business, and wondered if I had any real direction in my life at all. Of course, most of it could be solved by digging my way half way down a carton of Haagen Dasz, but realty is I had to use all the tools I teach and then some to keep my confidence in tact. Confidence can be robbed from even the best of us and maybe it's time I made it clear that I'm not perfect, either. ha! Who knew??

Hope your week was truly fabulous and that you gave the game face a break and revealed your humanity. Stay Contagious!

Whoo-Hoo! Not just for WaMu...

Hello there,

Don't you say "Whoo-Hoo! I can't wait to go to work!" (or school, or the office, or the kids rooms, or whatever you do every day) every morning? Come on, sure you do. Well, let me rephrase that, I DO. But it took work to get there and it sure wasn't a result of free checking or overdraft protection or whatever the latest WaMu marketing perk is.

Contagious Confidence(tm) provides the guts that lead to the glory. It takes confidence, self-esteem, courage, charisma, and persistence, among others, to do what you love and make a living at it. You can do it and get to a place where you say whoo-who each and every day. No one said it was going to be easy and WaMu may make it look easy, but if you want free checking... go for it... if you want to wake up happy, being you each day... then let's start working on your internal confidence, your contagious confidence! (and that is not always a piece of cake, but you can do it.)

Here are some recommended readings for you that I have found helpful this week.

The On-Purpose Person - Kevin McCarthy
You Can Heal Your Life - Louise Hay
Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill
Why You're Dumb, Sick, and Broke - Randy Gage

Stay Contagious and Confident!
Monica

Going to this conference is like...

Conferences are not for everyone... but this one just might be for you. We talk about self-awareness, financial confidence, health and fitness, and relationships. In fact, going to the Contagious Confidence Conference for Women is like getting a degree in life leadership... complete with the initials to put behind your name. Colleagues scoffed at me when I said I could create an entire contagious community and now then they watched me do it.

If you are a woman who wants to learn how to better lead her life, her own finances, her body along with her self image and her relationships and you wouldn't mind having that extra credential attached to your name, then this might be the series of events that you want to attend. Upon completion of the four Contagious Confidence Conferences, you will become a CL, or certified Leader of your Life, which you might find will also impact your life. Join us for our next event in October of 2008 or visit www.contagiousconferences.com.

Stay Contagious !

Thirteen Shocking Maneuvers that Will Save Your Sanity

Hello there,

It seems so many are "losing their mind" or just flat out "losing it" these days. Why are we all so on edge? hmmm... let's see... could be the 55 giant glass balls that we are all confidently trying to juggle. One person drops one and there is this domino effect - or rather, it becomes contagious. However, there are some ways that you can save your mind and save your sanity.

I must warn you, some of these maneuvers take a significant amount of contagious confidence to accomplish and carry out. However, when the voices in your head begin to run away with you, these are the very ways in which you can tell them to chill out and get your sanity, composure and confidence back.

1. Ask for help.. really... even it is hard and you feel like you might look silly, stupid, dumb, or less than absolutely strong and perfect. (trust me on this one)
2. Hire a coach for anything that you have been unable to work on for more than 24 months
3. Get Rest... plenty of rest, even when you don't have time and world says "go, go, go!". A ten minute nap qualifies as rest.. take one... or two..
4. Awfulize only at scheduled times and only for brief periods of time. Awfulizing is anything that begins with "Oh, my gosh, what if..."
5. Avoid the temptation to trust your first perception when you are stressed out
6. Realize and accept that not all people are as smart as you are in all areas (and encourage them to realize the same - yep that may mean they accept your shortcomings, too)
7. Give different (as opposed to difficult) people the benefit of the doubt more than once
8. Moderate your self-talk and say good things as often as you can - even when things look bleak
9. Remove yourself from negativity - walk away from the news in that doctor's waiting room, excuse yourself from conversations held by Eyeore him or herself!
10. Celebrate the very tiniest of accomplishments - you didn't buy that cookie at lunch, you let someone through in traffic - work with me here!
11. Confidently assert yourself and share your opinions, but leave the black witch hat and broom at home.
12. Spend your time being fascinated by life and what happens in it, instead of being frustrated by the multitude of things out of your control.
13. Lose the word "WHY" in your vocabulary and replace it with "Help me Understand" or "How" or "When" or "What's next" or "Next time"

and just for giggles... one more... to boost your contagious confidence and stay sane in a world that often times appears to have gone mad....

14. Walk around with a Chesire Cat sized grin on your face and when people ask you what you are so excited about... just mysteriously and with a bit of flair say "Oh... nothing". You will be amazed at how people will be attracted to that and how many times they will ask you to "go on... tell me!" .

So does this mean that people really do want to be happy after all? who knew?
Stay contagious!

Confident Type As need love, too!

In my chiropractors office yesterday, I was surprised by a phrase that I didn't think applied to me. He said - "When was the last time you went to have a massage?" and I'm thinking... oh yeah, in my spare time, I'll get right on that in between bon-bons and shopping sprees. He must have seen the look on my face and then he said "Even confident Type A people need love, too. Take care of yourself."

Yep, busted. And I bet I am not the only woman who takes care of everything else and everyone else, but puts herself last. In fact, here I sat in the chiropractor's office with sprained shoulder and a possible hairline fracture from my favorite rambunctious horse and instead of stopping to heal, I was asking him how quickly he could make it better so that I could get back to working full speed. And I am the one who tells other women to take care of themselves. eek!

Confident and even more so, CONTAGIOUSLY CONFIDENT women tend to confidently lead the charge that the are tough, cool under pressure and able to do it all. well, yes, we confident women can do it all, but as a friend of mine says "just not all at the same time".

All of you who were at our last Contagious Confidence Conference (may 2, 2008), I ask you... what have you done for you lately... it will boost your confidence to give yourself some love, too.

Stay Contagious!

I got a fun email today from one of our Contagious Conference attendees. She saw me sign an email I sent to her with "Stay Contagious!" and her comment back to me was that she never realized that kind of salutation could actually be a good thing! It was great!

In fact, you are contagious, whether you admit it or not. From the time you ride to work (whether you rode your broom in that day or not) to the time you get home, and even after you get home, your mood, your confidence level, your demeanor and pretty much everything you say and do rubs off on other people. Not sure you buy it... try hanging out with a child under six and see if they don't immediately pick up on things you do or say and then blurt them out later at the most inopportune moment. HA! Adults also pick up on things, they are just better at covering new behaviors than wee ones.

Stay Contagious!